Expectations are imposed upon us at an early age and then reinforced throughout life, although I’ve learned that my expectations of myself and what is expected of me by others usually vary.
“Reexamine all that you have been told in school, or in church or in any book. Dismiss whatever insults your soul.” Walt Whitman
As a young girl, you are expected to act like a lady, listen to your parents, keep your room clean and get good grades. As you proceed through adolescence, the expectations shift only slightly – you are still expected to act like a lady, don’t disappoint your parents, keep your room clean, get goods grades, start thinking about a career and find a nice boy to take care of you in case all else fails. This pattern continues throughout adulthood. Now more than ever, you need to act like a lady, be on your best behavior at all times, refrain from speaking your mind, keep your house clean, look after your family (that is assuming you have found a nice boy to take care of you), exercise, network, etc. etc.
When you start looking for that nice boy, may I suggest you use a magnifying glass? This tool will assist you in finding any
“Treat a man as he is, he will remain so. Treat a man the way he can be and ought to be, and he will become as he can be and should be." Goethe
There will come a point in all relationships that you will look at your mate and think “What the hell happened?” or “Who is this person? I’m pretty sure I feel in love with him a one time. Where did that feeling go?”
When these feelings strike, you need to take a step back and assess the entire situation. Be sure to ask yourself – Are you the same person he fell in love with? Do you take as much time with your appearance as you once did? When was the last time you purchased sexy underwear? Am I just expecting too much or should I be expecting a little more?
Relationships are a lot like your job – it’s easier just to show up and expect to collect your paycheck, but if you expect to make employee of the month, you have to put some effort forth and kiss a little butt along the way.
“We must learn to reawaken and keep ourselves awake, not by mechanical aid, but by an infinite expectation of the dawn.” Henry David Thoreau